Dating

Hey everyone!  Here goes another week for the family blog!  Hopefully everything is going right for you guys, because it sure has been a rollercoaster ride for me.

This week in class was definitely an experience.  I have felt pretty strongly lately that I need to be getting into the dating game for whatever reason, and it just so happened to also be the topic of discussion in our class this week.  What a coincidence. 

So to kick everything off, we started by examining what dating consists of within society, and how it has changed over the last 20 years.  I am sure that you are all aware, that back in the day, dating was a very formal experience.  The man would ask the woman out, they would do something formal, he would pay for her, and that was it.  It was simply a date.  There was a point where that dating would develop into a courtship, what we would now classify as a relationship, however, the point of dating was not to find someone to court, but just to get to know them for who they are.  These courtships (when developed) would oftentimes be much more grounded and situated than what modern relationships may turn out to be.  There was an added level of class and respect to their situation.  Once this happened, and if it would go well, they would then proceed to engagement and then marriage.

Brother Williams (my professor) was very clear that this culture has drastically changed in our day.  People view a date as something much more committal than what it used to mean.  It used to be an opportunity to put yourself out there and meet people (obviously) but more importantly to see yourself around other people.  It was an opportunity to recognize good, and bad qualities within yourself.  Dating now is viewed as something you do to be a “thing” with someone else.  I think that is a big reason as to why so many people are so scared of the idea of dating.  They are scared that they will be rejected due to the misconception of their intentions even if they are just trying to have fun in a non-committal situation. 

People also go on much fewer dates nowadays than we used to back when it was more formal.  The average woman goes on only 1 date a year, and has 3 hookups (hookups are also MUCH more common than they used to be).  That statistic was mind-blowing to me!  I have always tried to go on dates somewhat frequently, but after seeing this, I realized I need to help some girls have more opportunities! 😊  I do strongly feel that if we focused on redeveloping a healthy dating culture, people would all around be happier. 

Overall, this week opened my eyes to the importance of dating, that it isn’t just to find someone to hook up with, but that it goes much deeper than that.  It is an opportunity to learn about yourself and to grow as a person.  Let us all strive to look at dating with this mindset and I know that we will all be better off.

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